Nights Out – Pushing Myself Out Of My Comfort Zone

For the longest time, I have always avoided a night out. To be honest I’m not entirely sure why the idea of a night out filled me with nerves, but it really did. I would always come up with an excuse; ‘I start work early in the morning’, ‘I’m not feeling too well’, ‘I’ll drive and come back early’ – any excuse to make the night shorter or not go at all, I have used in the past. However, I was thinking the other day – WHY? Why don’t I go? Why do I get nervous? What’s stopping me?

I always love hearing about the fun my friends have on a night out, who was there and where they went. I think I mainly used the ‘I’m driving’ excuse to not drink and to leave early. I have never been someone who likes to drink too much. I don’t mind having a drink, but I don’t like the thought of being super drunk. I just prefer to remember the evening and I much prefer a good chat with people rather than being in a loud club and focusing on drinking. These were all the thoughts that I would have when asked to go on a night out that stopped me from going.

However, recently I have been trying to push myself out of my comfort zone. I think with university fast approaching, I want to get used to doing more things that are a challenge for me. Don’t get me wrong, whenever I do go on a night out, I tend to have a fun time with my friends – which is why I know that the reasons I make up in my head for not going aren’t really valid. I know that a night out isn’t a big deal for most and that so many people go every week, which is why I want to push myself to go, so that I can do more in the future, especially with starting university. 

A few weeks ago, I went for drinks with my friends for one of my best mate’s birthday. I was due, as usual, to leave early. However, I was having such a lovely time that I didn’t want to leave and also it was one of my best friend’s birthday and I wanted to celebrate with her. So, I decided to stay out and get a taxi back with my friend. I ended up having such a fun night, catching up with loads of people and having a laugh. It got me thinking, why am I restricting myself from having fun experiences with my friends? 



So, with that being said, I am going to push myself to go on more nights out. I have realised that I can tailor the night to me – I don’t have to drink loads if I don’t want to, and I can leave whenever I want. Knowing this makes the idea of the night more chilled and makes me look forward to it.

I was speaking to one of my best friends the other day about this – in fact the same friend whose night out it was the other week – and she was being so helpful. She made the point that I might go and have a good night and I might go and have a bad night, but the most important thing is that I went and pushed myself out of my comfort zone so that the next time I go on a night out, it is less daunting than the time before.

As I am writing this, there is a plan to go out next week with my friends and lots of people I used to go to school with, and I am really looking forward to it. I can’t wait to catch up with people I might not have seen in a while and also have a good chat with my friends too. I still have slight nerves, but they have definitely improved since the last night out. Which proves my friend’s theory, the idea of a night out will become more exciting and less daunting if I go more.


So, there is a little update. Pushing myself out of my comfort zone is something that I have never found easy (like most people), but attempting it bit by bit will hopefully mean that I enjoy what I end up doing and don’t restrict myself.

I would love to know in the comments; how do you like to push yourself out of your comfort zone? And what advice would you give to people who may feel the same as I do about a night out?

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